Gwyneth Paltrow And Chris Martin Split: What Went Wrong

See more pictures, media and the full resource throughout their 10-year relationship, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin famously avoided being photographed together to the red carpet – and their last public appearance as a couple was no exception. Attending the Resist Melanoma advantage on Jan. 28 in Los-Angeles, the couple appeared separately but registered up within the intimate event, relaxing together in betraying small warning of an impending split and the middle of the area. But behind the scenes, the Oscar-winning actress, 41, and the Coldplay frontman, 37 – who reported on Tuesday their decision to actively uncouple – have been fighting for some time to keep their marriage afloat, many options tell PEOPLE. The pair, that are parents to daughter Apple, 9 ½, and boy Moses, 7 ½, 'really tried to make the relationship work, but often it 's best to not be married,' says a source close to Paltrow. 'They know that about each other now.' Rumors of difficulty had long dogged the couple, and Paltrow accepted experiencing difficulties in her relationship. ` You 're not studying anything until you 're having the challenging conversations,' she advised Self last year. 'Dealing with issues straight changed my relationships. Often when you get clear about who you're, others get less comfortable simply because they preferred who you were. It's changed my relationship, too, but he's up for that concern.' In terms of cheating rumors, the foundation near Paltrow says she finds the chatter 'ridiculous. And do you know what? She doesn't care what individuals believe. She definitely doesn't, she knows the facts.' 'They have worked really hard for a year or more, going to treatment, seeking to make it function – and she's been more honest than ever about how hard marriage is – but they just decided it was best to not be together anymore as a pair,' adds the source. Competing work schedules and busy Times Mileage were always challenging for the set, who had long divided their time between their homes in London and Los Angeles. Martin continues to be working on his new record with Coldplay and recently signed on as being a tutor for NBC's The Speech, while Paltrow recently reprised her role as Mom Holiday on the 100th bout of Glee and draped her picture Mortdecai in January. After traveling to the U.K. for Christmas, they'd invested much of yesteryear many months in L.A. and appeared 'really together' during awards season, says an industry source, turning up at the Golden Globes on Jan. 12 and at Sean Penn's Support Haiti Household celebration the night before. PICTURES: Personalities' Surprising Separations Priority for Nurturing far from the spotlight, both Martin and Paltrow have prioritized parenting. ` though they'd killer schedules they were generally around together in L.A. and an united front at events in their Brentwood neighborhood, and They made an effort to be there for their kids at their pursuits,' says a source who knows the couple. ` They were not a traditional couple per se, but they were a couple and tried to do something any family would do, from carpool to a lemonade stand. ' Despite the announcement in their split, both stars are united inside their effort to keep carefully the kids' lives as constant as you can even as the rumor mill churns. ` what individuals are going to say and They're both prepared for the next few weeks and they really don't care,' says the Paltrow source. 'It'll move; [Gwyneth] knows that.' 'They are still a family. They will always be a household. Nothing can ever change that.' • Reporting by JENNIFER GARCIA, JULIE JORDAN and ELIZABETH McNEIL